Hi everyone…I wrote this post two years ago and I have to say the question still stands. This is what happened as it went like this….
Sorry but today I’m venting and venting…….so to begin….. I joined this women’s group. It’s not the first I’ve ever Joined. The last one was to promote entrepreneurship between women and network. That was an absolute blah……what I saw instead were women who said they would meet with you so you can share about your business but the meetings either never happened or you never got any business. There were also a lot of cliques and it was like a social butterfly club, so of course, I stopped going.
This second women’s association is about promoting art. Sounded great and I felt I could learn from these more experienced ladies and the association will help market my art and I would share what I know about business (since I ran my own) as well as share my creative skills. Eventually with the experience built, I would become a more involved member and play my part….so I took part in 3 events. The first was …….what can I say….a bust?……nothing came out of that event nor the second. I met a few nice women, but no sales, I didn’t really learn anything and all I realised is that they were a bit disorganized. But I gave it another chance.
They recently had an art exhibition and indicated that you can submit 3-4 pieces and the committee would approve the pieces that would be shown and it cost $300.00 which was to help them defer expenses. I submitted 4 pieces. So you can understand my disappointment when, after inviting 3 friends, we attended to find that only one of my pieces was up and it was the smallest piece I submitted. Now don’t get me wrong…..don’t think….…in any way that I was jealous…..like a friend commented to me when I complained about it….it was jealousy, it was the principle
Some friend……seems that friend doesn’t really know me…..No….what got my goat is why ask us to submit 3-4 pieces and only one is up when you see almost everyone else has 2 and 3 pieces up. Wouldn’t it have been fairer to at least put up 2 pieces for everyone and not do 3 for some? This really upset me. It was disappointing and I’m sorry….it stinks of unfairness. One artist whose piece was below mine (she only got one put up as well) indicated she too was disappointed that only one of her pieces was featured but she is just grateful to be in the exhibition.
GRATEFUL!!!!!………….NOOOOOOO!!!! I’m not grateful. If you had told me that I was only getting one piece up at a cost of $300 (to defer expenses) then I would have said no thanks, I have a better chance of getting something sold when I pay the same amount for a table in a Fair or Upmarket. But as I say in life….you live and you learn. I’m not one to continue doing something that gives me no value or enjoyment. I tried it and it doesn’t work for me. I seek out, work hard to find or make my own opportunities. This association will work for some not for me.….so… NEXT!!??…….Lol
That is why I question if women really help each other or is it just lip service. I remember long ago another situation where I was a part of a women’s association and I spoke to a top HR person about my product, she promised to set up some training for a few of her people using my training product….she never did….yet as a speaker at the women’s association conference she talks about helping women and she would help every woman who came to her…hmmmmyes…so now I take all talk with a pinch of salt…action for me speaks louder than words…because a year later when she left the company where she was HR Director I got business with the new HR manager.
My point is….Once I know I can help you I will…my purpose in my coaching business is to help everyone discover their full potential, woman or man….and if I can’t help you I will let you know upfront. I don’t promise what I can’t deliver. I wish everyone operated like that. So ladies….lets help each other when and if we can.